Triple EX

I, for one, want one of these:



But then, I can't get one of these:



I'm torn.

Via Jezebel and Feministe.

Retro Bromance

The great Gene Kelly and fabulous Fred Astaire.
As IF they were juuuust friends ;)

For those who care:

Astaire was a generation of Hollywood performers ahead of Kelly and was, unsurprisingly, one of Kelly's biggest role models. While their style definitely differed (Astaire was a little more proper, while Kelly was quite rough and visceral), they were quite fantaaaaastic together. Ahhh, definitely two of my role models.

Where's the love?

Valentine's day is fast approaching! The day of love, or for some, 24 hours of constant reminders of how excruciatingly single you are. Valentine's Day is my Christmas, I am a hopeless romantic and believe in love above all else.
I have noticed a big problem this year. I have yet to see any Queer directed Valentine cards. Apparently Hallmark doesn't have a card for everything. I saw no cards for Husband to Husband, for Son and Husband, or 'Please U-Haul with me'. I did find plenty of cards depecting straight relationships.
What are we to do?
Looks like our best bet is to order one off the internet. Not that I am suggesting getting a card for your special someone. You can do better then that! Do something really special, cheesy romance does not have to be a thing of the past. I am fighting hard to bring it back.

P.S. I still need a date for the big day ;)
I like long walks by the river, candle light, and I am a true gentleman. I'll open the car door for you and everything.

I have been out having a dance party all night.
Wait.
What I mean to say is I have been out collecting research in the field for a post :S..
I am slacking on my post. Sorry!

My Love Affair with MTL

Most people in my life know that I pretend to live in la belle ville (Montreal). Because of that, I tend to keep track of all the montreal shows that I wish I was at (take a look at my day planner and you would think I am the biggest mtl hipster everrrrr).*

Anyways, the 2008 electro-dance whirlwind Hercules Love Affair is going to be playing in montreal on Friday, February 13th at Cabaret. Go. You might see me there.




*I don't live there, just to clarify

Stereotyping is bad

Hopefully that is not news to you. As queer people we have all been stereotyped before. As a flamboyant interior decorator, or a man hating construction worker. They cause people to look only as far as the stereotype in their head will allow. Which tends to be very near sighted. The person you really are is over looked. Gay stereotypes are easier for people to see, then to accept that we are ordinary, everyday people.
So if we all know that stereotyping is bad. Why are we doing it to ourselves?
It can be seemingly harmless things such as gay men thinking all lesbians preferred drink is canned beer. Or lesbians assuming gay men have a vigorous moisturising routine. But the stereotypes can get much more complicated then drink orders, or skin care. They set a ‘proper’ way for us to act, within the label stuck on us.
‘Butches’ are expected to speak, move, and express themselves in ways that are different then how ‘femmes’ are supposed to act.
As queers we should know how harmful categorising people is. However ‘untraditional’ our labels are. We are still being asked to fit into our own versions of ‘traditional’ roles.
There is no ‘proper’ way to be queer. I know when a person is young, and discovering who they are in relation to their newly found community it is easy to fall into roles. It gives them a sense of understanding, of themselves and how they fit into the community. But those roles quickly become smothering. Instead of creating a sense of who they are, the roles begin to dictate who they can’t be, and what they can’t do.
There is no reason for us to act a certain way to fit the role expected of us. And it is not acceptable for us to look at a person to act within roles we set for them.
People don’t fit into ‘butch’, ‘femme’, ‘twink’, or the many labels out there.
So lets take ourselves back to a lesson that didn’t quite sink in as a kid. Stereotypes are bad, don’t do it.


On a separate note, today is a day for history. In a country with a blemished history, today is a mark of change and hope.

Rosa sat so Martin could walk; Martin walked so Obama could run; Obama ran so our children can fly!
- 19-year old single mother from McKeesport.

Just For Fun

"A New Chance" by The Tough Alliance.

Some reviews out there have touted The Tough Alliance as the greatest thing for cheesy pop since Cindy Lauper. Honestly, while I enjoyed their 2008 album, "New Chance", I found it abrasive at times. TTA is great in small doses, on good speakers, and in a club. Otherwise, they sound a little tinny and whiny. Anyways, pretentious music reviewing aside, the album is fun, and the vids are funner.

I haven't been able to confirm that they identify as queer, but it is refreshing to see some fun synth-pop that doesn't require a hot blonde woman in tights. Bromance, livz on.